// breakups

breakups
just suck

ending relationships with
romantic partners
friends
parents
siblings
other family members
work colleagues
often feels unbearable
in that moment

a heavy blanket
almost too heavy to lift again

mixed emotions of
sadness
anger
confusion
emptiness
denial
jealousy
envy
anxiety
nostalgia
relief
gratitude
grief

breakups
are deaths
that bring us grief
in all its shapes and forms

the death of
the projection of the person
we wanted them to be

the death of
the expectation that
this person will always be in our life

the death of
the dreams of all the beautiful things
we may have experienced together

the death of
the familiarity and habit of
having that person around

the death of
a part of ourselves

people come into our lives and
people may leave our lives again
while they’re still alive
it may be tomorrow
next year or
in a few decades
out of nowhere

often it’s not in our control
all we can do is
try to appreciate the time we have together
in the here and now
be grateful for all the gifts that this person shares
pleasant and unpleasant ones
accept when our heart or theirs decides
it’s time to leave each other
or when one of us simply fades out
release them freely without clinging
take enough time to grieve this relationship

grief is an expression of Love
even if it doesn’t always feel that way

breakups
are gifts to
honor and end a cycle
make more space again
invite something new
start a new one

breakups
are gifts to
get a few steps closer to
our authentic selves and to Love

(and they still suck)